Throw down

I don't know how to keep up with people who expect you to live up to expectations that exist only in their minds. Why is that when a person wants something, they don't tell you they want it, they just expect you to know? And, why is it that that same person who never tells anyone what she wants (so therefore never gets what she wants) is always surprised when people don't give her what she wants? Why is it that she doesn't understand that her state of chronic disappointment is totally self-inflicted? Why can't she just throw down and tell people exactly what she wants? Is it so that she'll always be the victim? I have no answers, just lots of questions...